Real women hustle is the tagline of this blog. It maybe a little confusing to some; maybe strange or curious to others. If that’s the case, then it’s done it’s job. I wanted a tagline that is short, succinct and strong but also something that is a little intriguing and questionable. Who are these women and what makes them real? How and why do they hustle? What do they have to do with being moxie? What is moxie? Are you real? Am I real? And… I’ve just broken your mind.
But let’s start with the hustle, shall we? What exactly do I mean by hustle? I certainly don’t mean that you should rob, steal, cheat, lie and swindle to get what you want. That is the shady interpretation of the word and we don’t condone that. And I don’t mean to dance in the style of ’70s disco. This ain’t no Saturday Night Fever.
What I mean doesn’t involve other people so much as it involves just you and your business or approach to life. To hustle is to work as hard as you can, to do whatever it takes, to get where you want to go. The hustle is what makes dreams reality. It’s the aggressive, go-getter, never give up, stubbornly relentless, ride-or-die attitude and methods that are directed at your goals.
When we apply that militant approach to our goals and dreams, without harming others in the process (we don’t want karma biting us in the ass after all), then success would be as assured as it could be. To give yourself the best chance at success, you need to give it all you’ve got. That’s why we hustle. Why real women hustle.
The Real Woman
No real woman needs a man to keep her, to own her, to buy her things, pay her bills, treat her like a service, a product or arm candy. She goes after her own dreams and stands tall on her own independent motherf*cking two feet. In heels. That’s how hardcore she is.
She controls her life. She makes her own rules, pays her own way. She makes her own money, doing what she loves.
As soon as a woman needs a man for any of that, then she loses her power and dooms any chance for a real relationship. A woman like that will never find love if she treats her man like a bank manager or atm because there’s no chance that said man, will ever think of her as his equal.
A real woman is a moxie woman. She knows her worth and doesn’t settle for anything less. She wants to be treated like an equal. Not a queen. Not put up on a pedestal and worshipped, but an equal; respected and admired on her own merits.
Just as she does not want to be kept, she doesn’t want no scrub. You can’t ever respect a man who you have to support, that sits on the couch all day drinking beer and watching tv. A real woman deserves a real man or real woman (no gender judgement here). Someone who goes out there and hustles for their dreams while supporting yours.
She wants a partner in life. Someone loyal who will encourage and support her but who will also challenge her. She wants someone who makes life more enjoyable together, if not, what’s the point? She’s comfortable, confident and happy on her own, so whatever man she does start a relationship with must be worth her giving up her singledom.
And she’s not afraid to be alone. She’s not living by the rules of society. Get married by this age, have kids by that age. She’s making her own rules for her own life. Whether she wants to be a mother, a career woman, an entrepreneur, a butcher, a baker, a candlestick maker, it’s because she has chosen it. She’s the boss of her life and she’s living it, like a boss.
She has high standards for what she wants in a man and in her life. And why not? She, herself is a catch. She likes to better herself, improve her life, aspire to great things. Of course she has fun and lets her hair down when she feels like it (she’s no cyborg), but when she’s not at play, she’s hella focused on her goals.
The Moxie Life
She’s not afraid to be open-minded, to be open to new experiences and adventures and whatever life has to offer. She welcomes change. She knows that life is short, that she can’t wait around for her friends or a significant other, to accompany her in doing what she wants to do. She doesn’t need someone to hold her hand. She makes the most out of life, even if that means going it alone.
And she’s not comparing that life with others. She’s smarter than that. She knows we’re each on our own path, doing our own thing, so there’s no point in judging or gossiping. She’s not living to make others jealous or to fake what she doesn’t have. She’s not afraid to be vulnerable to her feelings but she doesn’t emotionally manipulate others either. She’s honest, truthful. Real.
She’s also kind and generous. She gives back where she can. She’s grateful for where she’s at and appreciates that others may not have had the opportunities that she has. She knows that helping and giving where she can, gives her life more meaning and purpose.
This is what being made of moxie is all about. Aspiring to be this woman. And being a woman like that, a real woman who also hustles? Well hell… she’d be damn unstoppable.